Getting What You Want

by Deborah S. Myers

Are you getting what you want? Are your desires and goals being met? Are you displaying what you want to receive?

We literally draw to us what we are showing, whether that be frustration and anxiety OR whether it be “living in a trance” OR whether it be exuding a sense of security and joy and abundance. “Showing” can be what our body posture says, what our facial expression reveals, and what our energy system manifests. Our energy needs to be in movement and we need to consistently remind our bodies to be in flow rather than to be stuck. Being stuck creates a body that is in reaction instead of creating what we want.

A really great thing to do is to consistently remind your body to be in alignment with what you want to receive – hold upper arms by folding arms across your chest and then shift your fingers so you’re holding the outside edges of your shoulder blades.

You can manifest what you want to receive by changing your perspective, by balancing your energy, by BEING what you want to have in your life, and by being in joy. You can become a magnet for all that you desire and whatever makes your life meaningful. Enjoy the experience!!

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*having a sense of lightness or buoyancy
*feeling alive, vital, energetic
*having a sense of flow or oneness
*feeling love & compassion for yourself and others
*having passion about your life and your purpose
*feeling gratitude or forgiveness
*being at peace with life
*being fully present in the moment

While I don’t usually discuss economics or politics on my blog, I feel it’s important to share information and understanding about this rather complex situation we’re in as a nation. As a mortgage consultant with the utmost integrity, I’ve bristled upon hearing the entire mess blamed on greedy mortgage brokers who over-populate the profession.

While it’s true that many selfish amoral brokers originated loans for clients they neither counseled nor informed properly about the terms of their loans, they were allowed to do so by lenders who were profiting enormously on these loans.

Lenders were able to make sooooo much money selling the securities (loans) on the secondary market that they were willing to take enormous risk by lowering their loan qualification criteria farther than ever before in history.

What really makes my blood boil (and makes others in my industry furious and frustrated- as you’ll hear in the video below) is that they are getting away with it! The gov’t (i.e.: taxpayers) are sucking up all the downside fallout as the government uses taxpayer monies to bail out these financial institutions. The lenders are actually making enormous profits and giving their CEOs huge salaries and bonuses. Whereas the taxpayers will have this crippling debt for decades- maybe longer depending on how many republican administrations we have.

Two years ago, I predicted that the government would buy the securities from the lenders and later would sell off the securities at a deep discount often to the very same lenders. The tax payers would get stuck with a huge debt and the lenders would be fatter than ever.
The way the government has now structured it totally protects the lenders- the lenders have NO risk and obscene upside potential (profit!). In the meantime, because the lenders are profiting so outrageously from every short sale, they have little incentive (or decency) to cooperate with loan modifications and they make the modification process a living nightmare for the consumer.
Watch this short and informative video for the details that the FDIC doesn’t want you to know: http://www.thinkbigworksmall.com/mypage/player/tbws/23622/1594081

The heart, deeply connected to Source listens with rapt attention to Guidance, communicates with the mind; and together they communicate with the ego.

Our egos aren’t meant to lead, but they will if the heart isn’t leading. The ego is meant to be the implementor; the heart accesses guidance and will lead from there.

Without a clear & compelling connection to the sacred, our pleasures come from the assertion of the ego, conquest, & acquiring stuff. This sort of pleasure is much less satisfying. Ego’s satisfaction is superficial, fleeting, and requires constant replenishment. We can use up our lives chasing this fleeting satisfaction. Or we can choose a deeper form of satisfaction.

Set a clear intent to connect with the divine: Slow down, quiet the mind, change your brain waves from beta to alpha to theta & invite contact. Be patient. It may not occur immediately and/or on the first try however, the earnestness of your intent is very compelling and will yield results.

Leave a comment and let me know how it’s going for you.

Many people have forgotten how to connect to Source and enjoy a profound two-way relationship, including receiving guidance from Source. This guidance is invaluable and infallible.

A client emailed me today after her recommendation of me did NOT appear on LinkedIn even though she thought she did it right. She asked me about the right attitude/approach to have wrt technology- the numerous and frequent frustrations of dealing with the myriad technology in our lives (exponentially higher for those of us with our own businesses!).

After I emailed her back, I realized that my response applies not just to technology, but to life in general in the information age. I don’t profess to have THE answer, but I’ll share what I’ve learned along the way thus far and what I’ve decided for myself:
- get tons of support! There are people who know how to do anything you’re needing/wanting to do/have done. Put the word out about your need. Either have someone get you up to speed to DIY or have them do it for you and continue to do it for you. There are creative ways to make this equitable for both parties. Think outside the checkbook.

-be diligent, steadfast, intelligent, and consistent in your efforts and also be equanimous with the process, the progress, and the timing. Remember that although we see “hares” all around us, it is the “tortoise” that wins the race. Don’t allow yourself to become discouraged by the hares and what looks like their faster progress. Map out the right course for your intentions and travel steadily on that course knowing that there will be ditches, ruts, bumps, boulders, etc. along the way. Choose to find the way around or through each of these as they appear and continue on your way.

-choose just 1-3 things (the thing that will be most beneficial for your situation) to develop and focus on at a given point in time. Wait till those are well underway before adding anything else- otherwise overwhelm will be paralyzing; the net result is that you will accomplish less and be quite miserable in the process.

- do less things and do them to the best of your ability while utilizing as much support as you can garner, and COMPLETE them. Completion is actually a key to happiness, satisfaction, self-confidence and fulfillment.

Life is short; find the way to do what you need to do and be happy in the process.

I hope that helps! Feel free to add to this list, it was intended to be just the beginning of a bigger list.

Louise Hay says we will not be growing and changing if we criticize ourselves because we’ll have a NEED to continue to have stuff to criticize, thus we won’t allow those things to change for the better. I’m not sure if I agree with that, but I do agree with her statement: “When we accept ourselves as we are, it opens the door WIDE for change and growth.” THIS bears out in my own experience! It also opens the way to inner peace and happiness.

What is your experience with self-criticism and self-acceptance?
Please leave a comment.

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.”
“One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
“The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”



I used to sleep 7-7.5 hours each night, well, most nights and without an alarm clock. Then, about 5 years ago, something shifted physiologically and I just started waking up, unable to sleep more than 5-6.5 hours. Once in a blue moon, I’m able to sleep 7, 8, or even 9 hours. When this happens, I feel amazing: happy, energetic, even more openhearted and loving, powerful, resourceful, etc. I have to look in the mirror to see if I’m wearing a cape- I feel that great! If only I could do this daily; heck, I’d be thrilled if I could do it weekly!

Recently, I’ve begun an experiment where I stay in bed with my eyes closed for 7-8 hours regardless of whether I’m asleep. Interestingly, I think I’m actually sleeping more. I’m hoping to retrain my body to sleep longer. At the very least, I’m getting more rest. That’s a good thing too.

The recommendations from sleep experts have always worked well for me: go to bed at about the same time (as early as possible because every hour of sleep before midnight is actually equal to 2 hours of sleep after midnight) and wake up at about the same time each day- including weekends, curtail your computer and tv watching at least 2 hours before bed, allow your activities to wind down to slower and quieter activities during this time.

Want to read more on this topic? Here’s an article from Huffington Post:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/arianna-huffington/sleep-challenge-2010-wome_b_409973.html

In my work I provide the opportunity for clients to resolve these things. We uncover conflicting beliefs and agendas, limiting beliefs, fears, values, etc.; we eliminate or resolve these and then create new neural pathways for constructive beliefs that are in alignment with their values and intentions.Certainly they will experience greater freedom, clarity, and happiness if they do resolve these things however, there is a TON of marketing material that implies that success, achievement, wealth, and abundance will be equally available to all once you do resolve these things. I am questioning whether this is objectively true. I think that the ego, and those marketing in this way, would love to believe that we have 100% free will, but empirical evidence suggests pre-determination exists and affects our outcomes.

What are your thoughts? Please leave a comment. I’d love to see a rich discussion develop here about this.